Journey to a New Land

We arrived in Lala Land yesterday and 1st thing on the agenda was to head over to Jeremy and Robert's new digs and then do dinner.  What many may not know, is that I've known Jeremy and Robert for over 10 years now!  They were once my producers, now my co-workers, and most importantly are now family.  So when Jeremy first said that he was going to move, I actually didn't take him seriously; not even for a minute.  Then he told me he'd found a studio and an apartment, and to be honest, I still didn't really believe him!  And then Robert said that he was going to look at places too.  Now the confusion really set in.   Could this really be happening?  We're all NY based.  You can't separate the team! How will this work?  

But we arrived yesterday, a week after our boys had moved their entire lives across the country and I have to say, I"m proud.

Picking up and leaving your family and friends is not an easy thing to do and I give much respect to them for their vision and their courage.  Often, to achieve greatness, there must be great sacrifice. 

So let's wish them good luck on their new journey and their new lives here in LA.  May it be filled with opportunity, joy and a little more sunshine :o)

Love you guys!

Emotionally Drained but Must Charge On

"If it was easy, then everyone would do it!"
No one ever said it was easy to achieve your dreams but sometimes it can be so exhausting! haha You can admit or not, but it's not always easy and I don't mind admitting that. That's just real talk. I can't help anyone by pretending like it's always roses and sunshine.
There are days when I feel so frustrated by so many different things. There are days when I feel exhausted and I wonder if it's actually worth it. There are days when I get so mad because someone tells me to do exactly what I had suggested 6 months ago! And I feel like knocking them on their head and saying "I told you so!"
But I don't stress those days anymore. Because the reality is that if you believe in what you're doing, then that's all you need. You need that faith and belief in yourself.
One of my co-workers recently asked me how come I always seem so at ease and that's exactly what I said. I just know. I just believe. And nothing and no one can sway me from that, end of story. So no matter how hard, no matter how many hills I feel like I'm climbing, no matter how many brick walls I bang my head against; I don't sweat it, because I just know.
We will get there. With hardwork and determination, we will get there.
So no matter what you're dream is, don't give up on it if you truly believe that you have something to offer. Sometimes it doesn't happen when you think it should or the way that you planned it, but when it is meant to happen, it will.
So keep your faith and charge on. And on a day where you may feel a little tired, take a breather and come back fresh tomorrow.
But never, ever give up!

Being a Woman in a Man's World...

I've been having a great week out here in LA.  The week before we were super busy getting ready for the show at Madison Square Garden which went great! But these two weeks have been interesting for me because it really reminded me that no matter how successful I am as a woman, men will always view me a certain way.  With all that I do and all that I contribute, at the end of the day, they often think that it's ok to speak to me a certain way because I'm a woman.  You realize that they would've never said that to the man who was standing next to me.  The other day, I bumped into an artist in the lobby of a hotel.  He was so busy checking me out that he was astonished when I came up and introduced myself as a manager in the industry.  And at that point he immediately became uninterested! He was only interested in talking to me if I was just some random hot chick who was going to blow his ego up more than it already was!  I go so out of my way to be professional and respectful to everyone that I meet but I realize that to some men when they see me, they just can't get past the fact that I'm a woman and take me seriously.  And on the other hand, when they're not checking me out, they're just assuming that I"m someone's girlfriend and don't actually do anything!  Maybe it's a music biz thing, but it's a definite thing!

Then as a woman, when you get a little tough with people, you are suddenly labeled a bi#c*h! Where as a man who does the same thing is labeled, powerful! 

I find it amazing that this still exists today in this day and age.  But it actually works in my favor because it pushes me to want more.  It pushes me to show them through all that I plan on achieving.  Their lack of belief turns into my motivation. 

So I will NOT let it stop me.  I will keep doing what I do and eventually, it will become easier.  Just as the wonderful woman who came before us made strides for us, we will make strides for the next generation.  We can; we will; we must!

Girl Power!!! hahahah

A new year, a new day and many new opportunities...

"Every new year people make resolutions to change aspects of themselves they believe are negative. A majority of people revert back to how they were before and feel like failures. This year I challenge you to a new resolution. I challenge you to just be yourself." 

- Aisha Elderwyn

Everyday, every week, every month, every year; we make promises to ourselves.  Promises to lose weight, promises to be a better person and promises to just change somehow...  It is a wonderful thing to want to push yourself for more and to want to push yourself to be better.  It's always good to want to exceed your current limitations.  But as I watch people make these promises, I often watch them break them and then I often watch them beat themselves up for it!  That doesn't serve much purpose!  It's really just a silly vicious cycle.

So as we all start this new year, I have one plea for all of you.  Set reasonable expectations for yourselves!  That way you will have an easier opportunity to actually attain your goal.  And then when you've reached that goal, you can go ahead and set a new goal and so on.  Don't expect to go from eating sweets everyday to never eating sweets! Or to go from working out one day a week to five days a week!  Or to go from never studying to studying all the time!  Don't burn yourself out in January.  The people who work at the gym always talk about how in the first month of January, they get so many new people signed up and then by March they've all disappeared again.  Take your time.  Whatever your goal is, ease yourself into it so you actually have the opportunity to make your wish into a reality!  And if you do fall off, then try, try again!  Don't give up on yourself or on your goals.  That's the great thing about being human beings.  We're allowed to make mistakes and we're allowed to give it a second chance!  

So go into this new year with the hope of something new but also remember to just love yourself for who you are and for who you will always try to be!

The Precious

Wow. I've had a really crazy month. I dealt with sudden illness and then death. And now I'm dealing with the sudden illness of a best friend as well as another person in my immediate family. It's so scary what we deal with as human beings. We get up everyday, go to school or work, hopefully have dinner with family and friends and then go to sleep, in preparation of doing it all over again the next day. We just get into this pattern and we assume that it will never change. We see bad things happen in someone else's life and yet we somehow assume that it will never happen to us as if we're invincible of some sort. But this month has truly reminded me of just how precious our lives are; how Important it is to cherish moments and cherish eachother. You're entire life can be changed in a split second and unfortunately, nothing is guaranteed.
So with all that being said; I vow to cherish the moments, to make time for more dinners, to tell the people around me just how much I love and appreciate them and I will call home more often instead of saying that there will be time later because the truth is, you never know what tomorrow will bring.
This isn't meant to be depressing by any means though, it's meant to be inspiring. Because we can control our present moments and we can make sure that we always do what's best, right here and right now! Remember "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God's gift, that's why we call it the present.". -- Joan Rivers
Enjoy this gift of life that we've all been given. Don't take it for granted.

I'll Sleep When I'm Dead

People are always asking me how I do it. Where do I find the energy? "Aren't you tired Thara?" they say...
I think that Lady Gaga said something to this effect but i don't know exactly what she said but I can tell you my opinion on it!
Whats the point of sleeping when there's still so much work to be done!? So much that I still want to achieve! So much more healthy food for me to eat!? So much more that I think I'm supposed to share with the world.
My feeling on it is that you're only young once. We have these opportunities that come and go everyday and I don't want to be the one to lose them because I was too busy sleeping. Their's always someone else who will work harder than me or get up earlier than me or take more meetings than me!
I certainly don't even do everything that I wish I could do in a day but at least I try. Cuz that's all I can really do right. Try to squeeze it all in and create my destiny.
That's all any of us can do! Don't let the opps pass you by. Take advantage of every minute of everyday. Seize your moment. Seize your life and then in the end, there'll be plenty of time for sleeping. :o)

For My Lovers...

Someone "Anonymous" made a good comment to me.  They wondered, when I get so many wonderful and sweet comments on Twitter, why do I only seem to respond to the negative ones.  And you know what?!  You're right!  Sometimes in life we all fall into the trap of focusing on the wrong things.  We focus on the guy who doesn't like us when their's a line of others who'd love to date us!  Or we focus on the one girl in school who isn't nice to us and take for granted the great group of friends that we already have.  

So this is for all the wonderful people who post wonderful comments on my twitter.  I am making a new rule to retweet one nice comment per week that one of our wonderful followers post.  I"m going to focus on what I do have and the ones who do show me love.  

Sometimes I think that I don't like to post the nice comments because I don't want to feel like I'm showing off or bragging.  And then when I retweet a negative post, it's because I do believe that we should only be posting positivity on each other's pages.  So I out that person as a way to teach them a lesson I guess.  But truth is, I probably can't change them anyways.  So I should just do what I do and only focus on spreading my own positivity and let the haters quietly hate; cuz they always will regardless of me or anyone else trying to teach them a lesson.  And just a little note - if you don't like my tweets or my blog, then you don't need to follow me! lol I mean I really only want to share with the people who want to be shared with anyways.

So to all my fam out there,  thanks for all the love you share with me and I hope I can continue to share my light and love with all of you!  Have a wonderful Monday and start your week with a fresh outlook and a new feeling of hope because today you have the chance to start this week from scratch!